There was no friendly greeting. He simply went straight to the point, his obvious first thought upon seeing me. “That” he said pointing at me slightly disgusted, “You’ve got to get rid of that.” He spewed the words with such revulsion that I was worried I had grown a third eye without realizing it. He was actually referencing my hair and the bold new turquoise streak. Apparently I had made a grave error in judgment not asking the Mailman for his opinion beforehand.
I have always admired and respected individuals who are confident enough to give their honest opinion. What I don’t appreciate are the individuals who will say something derogatory WITHOUT being ASKED for their input. No, you don’t have to like or agree with everything you encounter, but there should be a level of common courtesy. There are both appropriate and inappropriate times to share your opinion.
The majority of us are already incredibly self-critical; our own opinion of self doesn’t usually need an help feeling worse. Strangely enough, even though many of us share the same frustrating feelings, we never seem to shy away from telling someone what we DON’T like instead of COMPLIMENTING them on what we DO like. As adults we seem to have forgotten the Golden Rule- treat others with the same level of respect that you would like to be treated. Listen to others; did they ASK for your opinion? If YES, then respect them enough to give them your personal honest answer. If NO and you don’t have something nice to say, then just “Smile and wave boys. Smile and wave.”